I had a revelation the other day. Maybe it's just me getting this a bit late, but I thought it might be worth talking about. I mean, come on, life is B.U.S.Y. for everyone, right? Right? I find too many days where I've forgotten something important, forgot where I needed to be, failed at something major and made someone mad. The list goes on and on. Work all day and take care of the kids in the evening. Add in 3 teenage boys who love their sports....It's my messy life and I LOVE it and wouldn't trade it for anything. But.....something is missing.
Did you catch what that something is?
I'll tell you...it's my husband! That person that I love and who gently loves me back. That person I desire to spend time with yet that time is hard to find. That person I want to grow old with and get to know more and more as time goes on. YET...he seems to get the last of my attention in the house. Whatever attention he may get is often in the form of me asking him to do something or pick someone up. Not the calm and loving way I dreamed life would be like! Where did that "dream" go? Well...the back burner for most of the time. Thankfully he is ok with this and he goes with the flow very easily.
But I find myself feeling very convicted. He deserves SO much more. Yes, we do get some weekends alone, but they are often still filled with kids sporting events and running here and there. Both being introverts, we are much happier with a slow and mellow schedule. So, what can I do to provide that more often? How can I cater to his need for time together (and MY need for it also!).
First off, I have to make it a priority. Period! He more than deserves to have me go the extra mile. I need to be thinking of him MORE during the day. PRAYING for him! Keeping in touch with him during the day (as often as I can!). I need to make sure to greet him right when I get home or when he gets home. I need to make sure the little things are done for him. I need to not just TELL him he's a priority but also show him.
Second, I need to pray him up. Constantly. Praying for his protection and favor in his job. I need to be praying for God's blessings to rain down on him all day. I need to be his prayer warrior. I'll be honest, this is harder for me. You read the first part of this, right? Life is so busy, I have a hard time thinking and planning 30 minutes in advance. But, this man IS a priority. I need to find more time to pray for him.
Lastly, I need to watch my tongue. I think as women, we all struggle with loose lips. As my mom told us as kids "loose lips sink ships". Not something I want to see happen, ever. I need to keep my talk positive. Keep my focus on the positive. What would all the husbands out there think if all the wives started speaking kindness and positivity instead of tearing their man down, their life down, their kids down. It would be a very different world for a lot of marriages. I want to build him up. I want to build our home up. I want to build our kids up! All 4, lovely and wonderful children! I want to be a light in their world, not something they avoid. So....back to the praying!
I challenge you, if anyone is reading this, to turn your focus to everything that is positive in your life. Pray over your family. Each person. Pray over your marriage. And keep praying. Our world is full of voices, I want God to be the loudest. I want a positive home environment to be another loud voice. I want to raise kids who go out into the world who are positive & loving & caring.
So, that's what's been on my mind. Just the messy stuff of life. Just being real here.
Is anyone reading? Please leave me a comment so I know I'm not talking to myself! Lol! I do that WAAAAY too often!
Have a blessed week and if I'm not back before Thanksgiving...have a wonderful Thanksgiving!
